I try to help others with providing any information I can to them and not by responding with, I have too many kits to manage I don’t have time for you. The wonderful thing about DNA testing is that more and more people are testing all the time. (If the match that you and I share is 6 generations back for me, but my tree only goes back 5 generations, that surname might not be in my tree yet.). The DNA doesn’t lie. Ancestry’s messaging system has been known to have its quirks. So, as one person complained about the "inconsiderate people who can't take two minutes to even write a message to tell me to pound sand." It has led, we suspect, to the second family of my maternal grandfather. I’m an adoptee, as well. Both examples are very personally known by me. Have you asked to be able to view her tree? AncestryDNA is a simple saliva test you can do in the comfort of your own home. I am someone that has worked hard on my trees And my tree is extensive. ... Much to my surprise, I have found genealogy work … it is 2016, and I think we need to get passed all these all ways. There seems to be DNA matches for me that have no relation to my family whatsoever. Robert don’t give up on your “cousins”. Also if someone has no tree I always look at shared matches, many times that tells me which side they are on and really helps if they have no shared matches. For help, contact the security software company. Last December one of his DNA Match Cousin was able to help him find his father. As an adoptee, I believe that the reason we who have had our identities stolen do DNA testing is to find the family we have been separated from, which is far more important than the guesstimate of who migrated where … (It is not ethnicity! If the link comes up, it means both they and you are investigating ancestry – the number out of the 5000 who are doing this would be small. That is the tree I linked my DNA to. Your mileage may vary.). I agree with that very much . Frustrating, but fine. Maybe one out of a hundred DNA contact attempts result in an actual contact willing to discuss our connection. Showing 1-16 of 16 messages. You get more flies with sugar than vinegar, the old saying goes. If the match doesn’t show the common ancestors, give a general idea of where your research is. It’s become a waste of time. Next to FamilySearch.org, you’re not going to find a larger, more diverse genealogy website — and many of us are willing to pay their subscription fees for that reason alone.. If they continue to be comunicative or want to help me figure it out then I will tell them I am adopted, but I dont tell everyone because it is a subject still that will close doors for us adoptees. And in most cases no response then either. I just wanted to make it clear that there are so many things that weren’t addressed. People who put up their children for adoption and the adult-age adoptees can give consent to be contacted. (For example, tell where your great-great-grandparents lived to give the other person a starting point. As an alternative to RootsWeb Mailing Lists, Ancestry message boards are a great option to network with others in the genealogy community. With both my husband and I not working … Love your answers…they always make sense to me. Other people have their own needs as well. Thank you. So I’ve given up on my “cousins” even though I can tell that they are closely related. When I linked it to my DNA kit all the hints … we’re all happy. Yes, the Ancestry messaging system is, shall we say, quirky. They have family with my mother’s maiden name. Anyway I’m an adoptee looking for info on my birth parents. The half-sister I discovered looks exactly like my dad. . Very typical for most DNA sites (Ancestry, 23andME, MyHeritage, etc). Thursday, April 26, 2018 … Whether it’s a woman learning she has two half sisters or finding a match that helps break down a brick wall, the potential of DNA as a genealogical tool cannot be overstated. The exceptions, however, have been excellent and useful contacts so I am still supportive of Ancestry DNA overall. It’s like going to a family reunion just to stare at people. I’m also frustred by the fact that my father’s mother’s Line seems to gets all the DNA Green Leaf Hints but it’s great to have conformation. Sometimes people don’t realize that DNA matches can’t see their tree if it’s private. Only if there is a DNA match does it start to compare the trees for possible connections. After further examination that was the conclusion, but the explanation for connecting the person was to see if further linking information did come up. Especially if anyone uses more than one platform. I don’t check every day, and I’ve realized in the past that I had messages I definitely didn’t want to miss. DNA testing for ancestry is more popular than ever. I think the distant cousin emails are often from people who don’t understand the math of how many 5th (or greater) cousins they have and/or who think that they need to contact everyone in order to get the answer they’re looking for. To rise above their competition, companies MUST become innovative in what they can offer. In my 40 years of researching, I’ve never had that question right off the bat! Never tell people you are an adoptee at first. One thing I have run across is, it seems even some dna matches “linked” to trees are not the person that comes up full and center when the tree is opened.. Their email is usually a hot mess, with overflowing mailboxes, tons of spam, thousands of unread messages, etc. Not DNA but I’ve had messages out in the ether for years before somebody will end up sending a request for a follow-up. Even a genealogist, and I won’t mention any names, thought we were connected until I pointed out the facts, documents, places and people that couldn’t possibly match. When I’m looking through all these cousins, I don’t recognize the last names. (And some of the other people I have contacted elsewhere have been VERY NICE). I have a couple of “2nd-4th” cousins who have not responded. Don’t take it personally if a match doesn’t respond. I started conversing with someone to find out about our dna and now I haven’t heard anything I’m petrified I have too much info and will have my identity stolen. Ancestry is extremely conservative in predicting matches, because they think it’s better to underestimate relationships than to overestimate them. I am adopted as well. Why even bother to have the test. You can listen to this episode by clicking the play button below. Most people, I feel, are just more interested in knowning what part of the world they came from, not necessarily wanting to meet new people/family. re: AncestryDNA: I have sent 3 contact messages to possible 3rd cousin matches in the last 2 weeks but I do not see any indication in the Messages area of Ancestry.Com that they went out. I’m still wondering why it is so hard to get contacts to respond. Bottom Line: Ancestry will NOT give you customer support on any kits purchased on Ebay. Press J to jump to the feed. I paid for the $100 match but I do not understand why it only has “eastern decent” I thought I would be getting ” Ireland” and specific areas. why would you try to connect with someone who just up and left you and your mother? News like that can come as a complete shock to someone, which means that it could take them awhile to process how they feel about that knowledge, let alone making contact with their newly-discovered half-sibling. It’s a myth that “all” freed slaves took the surname of their slaveholder. That being said a couple days ago someone asked me about my research on a person from Poland. People sometimes have trees that aren’t attached to a test. Using their “help” website is useless. A few days ago, I looked on Ancestry and saw that I had a new close match. There are people in that group who have been through similar situations and can help guide you on your next steps. What if someone can tell if I have this ____ health issue & won’t hire me for a job!” I think that the more that the DNA companies can reassure customers that their data is safe & anonymized, they might get more comfortable. And I’ve experienced all of the above. Maybe you think it's rude that you can tell I've logged on to my account and not replied to your message, but I simply don't have time to care about responding to other people. Curiosity really plays a huge part in my decision to pursue this search. (Lucky us.) (I once wrote a blog post called “14 reasons why they didn’t answer your email and what to do about it.”). They might also not have noticed the icon that shows they have a message. For a long time I always felt guilty if I didn't help someone else though, so even when I just wanted to spend a few minutes working on my tree I knew that people could see that I'd logged in and not reply, so I would respond to messages instead. Second, I want to advise folks to be careful what you ask for when contacting a match for the first time, especially when no solid relationship has yet been established. Keep plugging away and sending messages. They may have done the DNA testing, then thought; “OMG, my personal data is out there! It does make me very sad when they don’t want to communicate. It really isn’t too big a deal. Occasionally there will be glitches with the list of matches, but that’s pretty unusual. I don't know if that happens often, though. At least they know I read their message. Stay up-to-date with all of the posts and get exclusive content! It doesn’t. Let’s talk” doesn’t instill a lot of enthusiasm to respond. I have a message I sent a few days ago that has not been replied to. If you disable your security software and the problem resolves, you'll need to add Ancestry as an exception. People can have a change of heart. Thanks. And no one was adopted in the past. There have been 2 that have showed as NO shared DNA when our parents are cousins like 2nd or 3rd..that makes no sense. Wound up with the DNA person’s wife emailing me and telling me they weren’t interested. "Make a tree", that's unusual. After working some more on my ancestry during the last few weeks, I have discovered ancestors whose immigration I would like to follow back to their birth countries. I would say there are very good reasons to contact a fifth cousin. AncestryDNA relies on comparing the DNA for the match. So in spite of all the silence and rejection it is worth persevering. 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